Couples Therapy

Couples therapy is a space to slow things down and begin to understand what happens between you. We start by identifying the patterns or cycles you find yourselves stuck in, especially the ones that leave you feeling disconnected or misunderstood.

From there, we gently explore what may be driving these patterns, including past experiences and relational dynamics that shape how each of you shows up. Sessions are active, supportive, and focused on helping you both respond to one another in more constructive and connected ways.

It’s very common to feel nervous about starting couples therapy. For many people, it can feel exposing or uncertain, especially if things have been difficult for a while.

Sometimes there’s a worry that therapy means something is “wrong” with the relationship, or that one partner is being brought along reluctantly. In reality, choosing to come to therapy often reflects care, commitment, and a desire for things to feel better. It’s a step towards understanding, not a sign of failure.

This is a common question. While I don’t take sides in a traditional sense, I do take a stand for the health of the relationship.

In Relational Life Therapy, I don’t remain neutral if something is happening that is harmful, disrespectful, or keeps the relationship stuck. I may actively challenge one or both of you, always in service of the relationship and with the intention of supporting healthier, more balanced ways of relating.

This isn’t about blame or criticism. It’s about helping each of you take responsibility for your part, so that real change, repair, and connection can begin.

It’s quite common for one partner to feel more ready than the other. Therapy can still be helpful, even when there is some hesitation.

We work at a pace that feels manageable for both of you, creating a space where each person can feel heard without pressure. Often, as the process unfolds, partners begin to feel more comfortable and engaged.

I usually recommend starting with weekly sessions, as this helps to build momentum and allows the work to deepen. Over time, some couples move to fortnightly sessions or adjust the frequency depending on their needs.

We can review this together as we go, finding a rhythm that supports the work and fits with your lives.

Yes. Couples often come to therapy during times of crisis, such as after a rupture in trust, ongoing conflict, or when considering separation.

Therapy can provide a structured and supportive space to slow things down, gain clarity, and begin to understand what has happened. For some, this leads to repair and reconnection; for others, it supports a more conscious and respectful decision about how to move forward.

You don’t need to have the answer to this before starting therapy. Part of the work can be creating space to explore this question more openly and thoughtfully.

Together, we can look at what has brought you to this point and what each of you needs, helping you move towards greater clarity, whether that is rebuilding the relationship or separating with care.